So I stopped. One thing at a time. This post is not just about home education. It is about choosing peace over pressure and rewriting motherhood on your own terms.
1. I no longer try to replicate school
No bells. No uniforms. No pretending we are a tiny classroom. Home is not school, and that is the point.
2. I no longer apologise for our lifestyle
I used to explain it, defend it, over justify it. Now I simply say “It works for us.” And it does.
3. I no longer compare my children to their peers
They are not behind. They are not ahead. They are exactly where they are meant to be.
4. I no longer fill every hour with activities
Boredom is not failure. It is space for creativity. We do not need to be busy to be learning.
5. I no longer prioritise curriculum over connection
The worksheet can wait. The relationship comes first. Always.
6. I no longer say yes to everything
Groups, co ops, invites, meet ups. If it feels like too much, I honour that. Our peace matters.
7. I no longer shame myself for screen time
Screens are part of life. We use them with intention. And sometimes, we use them for survival. That is okay too.
8. I no longer ignore my own needs
Because a burnt out mum teaches nothing but burnout. I matter too.
9. I no longer chase perfect
The Pinterest version of home education can stay on Pinterest. We are real. And that is enough.
10. I no longer question if this was the right choice
I see it every day. In their joy. In their curiosity. In the way they learn because they love to. Not because they have to.
Final Thought
If you are overwhelmed, it is okay to let go.
You are allowed to stop doing the things that drain you.
This journey is yours. Write your own rules.
Sending love always,
Mellow