The Quiet Shift No One Mentions
When your kids are little, motherhood is loud. Chaotic. Sticky. You collapse into bed covered in jam and glitter and think, “Surely it gets easier?” And it does… sort of. But no one talks about the middle bit. The 8–12 years. The parenting limbo.
This is where the cuddles get quicker, the questions get bigger, and you suddenly find yourself Googling “how to talk to your child about failure” at 11pm.
You’re Not in the Trenches – But You’re Not Out
The physical exhaustion eases. No more nappies, no more nap schedules. You can leave the house without a hundred snacks (though you still pack them out of habit).
But in its place comes a different kind of tired – the emotional kind. Because now it’s about listening, noticing, holding space. You become their safe place when the world gets weird – and it will. Friends fall out. School feels overwhelming. Bodies change. Confidence wobbles.
Less Holding Hands, More Holding Back
This season is all about restraint. Not jumping in with solutions. Not over-explaining. Not panicking when they say something deeply odd or frustrating.
They want independence – until they don’t. They roll their eyes at you, then crawl into bed that night and whisper they’re worried about something. They seem so big and so little all at once. It’s tender. And it’s tough.
Your Role Is Changing – And That’s Okay
You’re not their constant entertainer anymore. Or their fixer. You’re something more subtle: their coach, their anchor, their sometimes-punching-bag-for-hormones. You hold the boundaries. You model the calm. You pour the tea when they need to talk. You become the soft place they land – even when they pretend they don’t need one.
This Is Still Motherhood – Just Quieter
It’s no longer about keeping them alive. It’s about helping them live. Learning who they are. Helping them find what they love. Sitting on the sidelines and cheering like mad – even if it’s just for a Pokémon drawing or a maths puzzle they finally cracked.
Mothering in the middle is less documented. Less Instagrammable. But it’s no less holy.
You’re Still Doing It Right
If you’ve been wondering why it feels so strange lately, you’re not alone. This middle season can be lonely – because it’s quieter, more private, and a lot less obvious. But it matters. Deeply.
You’re doing the work. You’re showing up. You’re growing alongside them. And that counts.