What I Am Still Learning as a Mum of Tweens

I thought the hard part was the newborn stage. The nappies. The night feeds. The chaos. But here I am, parenting two funny fierce complex girls and realising… I am still learning. Every single day.

Motherhood did not stop evolving when they learned to tie their shoes. It deepened. And so did I.

They Are Watching More Than They Are Listening

They hear what I say. But they feel how I live. That is what sinks in. That is what they remember.

They Do Not Need Fixing They Need Understanding

They are not broken. They are figuring themselves out. My job is not to smooth the path. It is to walk beside them.

Boundaries Are Loving Even When They Push Back

They may slam the door. Roll their eyes. But they are looking for limits that say you are safe and I care.

Connection Beats Control Every Time

The more I lean in the less I need to micromanage. Trust builds everything.

My Voice Becomes Their Inner Voice

The way I speak to them now shapes how they speak to themselves later. That matters more than I ever realised.

We Are Both Allowed to Evolve

They outgrow clothes. Interests. Phases. I am allowed to outgrow old versions of myself too.

They Still Need Me Even When They Pretend They Do Not

They act like they know it all. But they still peek to check if I am watching. They still want the hug. They still need the anchor.

Final Thought

This season is strange and beautiful and stretching. It is not about getting it right. It is about showing up. Staying open. Letting them grow while we keep growing too.

Sending love always,
The Darling Mellow Team