Not Yet: The Calm Parent’s Guide to Screens, Smartphones and Growing Up Online

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Not Yet: The Calm Parent's Guide to Screens, Smartphones and Growing Up Online

The calm, evidence-based UK guide to raising children in a world of screens, smartphones and social media — what the research really says, what the new law means, and a practical age-by-age plan for your family.

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You don't have to figure out the future of technology before bedtime. You just have to make the next sensible decision for the child in front of you — and this calm, evidence-based guide shows you how.

Every parent is asking the same anxious question: when do I give them a phone, and am I getting this wrong? We're the first generation raising children in a world of pocket-sized, professionally addictive devices — with no map, drowning in scary headlines, and starved of clear, accurate help. Not Yet is that help: warm, honest, UK-focused, and grounded in what the research actually shows (debate and all), not in panic.

What this book is

A complete, ~49,000-word guide that cuts through both the fear and the false reassurance. It tells you what the evidence genuinely says about screens and children's wellbeing, what the new UK law really means for your family, and exactly what to do — age by age, from babies to teenagers. It's not about banning, shaming, or frightening you. It's a steady hand on your shoulder and a practical plan.

The title is the most useful phrase you'll ever learn: not no, not never — just, not yet.

What's inside

The honest evidence — what we really know about screens and children's mental health, including where the science is genuinely contested, so you're never relying on a scary headline.
The new law, explained — the Online Safety Act, Ofcom's age checks, and phone-free schools, in plain English and up to date for 2026.
A practical, age-by-age plan — babies and toddlers, the primary years, and the teen years, each with clear, doable steps.
The hard topics, made manageable — pornography, strangers, sexting, AI chatbots and deepfakes, money and scams — calmly and without shame.
The modern frontier — short-form video and attention, misinformation, the neurodivergent child, school devices, and the genuine upsides of being online.
The single highest-leverage rule, and the one promise that keeps children safe long after any setting is outwitted.
A fill-in family media agreement and a one-page age-by-age quick guide to stick on the fridge.

Who it's for

Any parent or carer of a child from birth to the teenage years who wants to do this thoughtfully but doesn't have hours to research it — including the tired, the time-poor, and the solo parent. Whether your child is a toddler glued to the tablet or a teenager you're deciding about social media for, there's a clear, kind chapter waiting for you.

Why it's different

Most screen books are either alarmist ("screens are poison") or dismissive ("it's all fine"). Not Yet does neither. It's the calm middle: honest about real risks, careful not to overstate them, and relentlessly practical. Every figure is drawn from a named, reputable source — the NHS, Ofcom, the WHO, UK government guidance, and peer-reviewed researchers on both sides of the debate — with a full sources list in the back. You can stand behind every word.

What you get

Instant digital download (PDF), ~49,000 words across 40 chapters and 8 parts, beautifully formatted and ready to read on any device. Buy once, keep forever, and you'll automatically receive any future updates as the law and guidance evolve.

Free updates included. When we update this product, you automatically get the latest version at no extra charge. Content is versioned and dated — you will always have access to the most current information. Last updated: April 2026.

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