When we first stepped into the world of home education, I imagined a smooth transition: swapping uniforms for pyjamas and rigid timetables for wild, joyful learning. But oh, the reality. Tears (mine and theirs), wobbles, and more than one sneaky Google of “Can I un-homeschool?”.
It turns out, what we really needed wasn’t a curriculum or a planner. We needed deschooling.
What Is Deschooling?
Deschooling is the transition period between traditional schooling and home education. It’s not about doing nothing. It’s about doing something essential: letting go. Letting go of old routines, mindsets and expectations. Letting your child – and yourself – breathe again.
If you’ve just taken your child out of school, chances are they (and you) are still carrying the rhythm of that environment. Deschooling gives everyone time to recalibrate, reconnect and rediscover what learning actually looks like outside of a classroom.
Why Deschooling Matters
- It helps your child decompress. School can be intense. Many children leave feeling anxious, exhausted or just plain done. Deschooling gives them space to heal.
- It rebuilds trust. When you stop “being the teacher” and start being present, you lay the foundations for real learning and real connection.
- It frees your mind from school-shaped boxes. Learning at home doesn’t need to follow a timetable or tick boxes. Deschooling helps you see that.
- It prevents burnout (yours included). Rushing into a structured curriculum straight from school can backfire. Trust me. I tried. Twice.
How Long Should You Deschool?
A common rule of thumb is one month for every year your child was in school – but honestly, it depends on your child, your family and your reasons for leaving. Some kids bounce back in a few weeks. Others need months. It’s not a race. It’s a reset.
What Deschooling Might Look Like (Spoiler: It’s Not All Worksheets)
- Long walks and longer lie-ins
- Rewatching favourite films (again)
- Baking just because
- Library trips with no agenda
- Building LEGO cities, reading aloud, digging in the garden
- Asking big questions. Or no questions at all.
It might look like “nothing” is happening. But it is. Healing is happening. Curiosity is growing. Pressure is melting. And under all that? Real learning starts to flicker to life.
Tips for a Gentle Deschooling Period
- Be honest with your kids. Tell them you’re figuring this out together. Invite them into the process.
- Watch their play. Children will often show you what they’re ready to learn – if you’re paying attention.
- Journal your days. It’ll help you notice growth and magic you might otherwise miss.
- Don’t compare. Not to other homeschoolers, not to school, not even to your own expectations.
Still Feeling Nervous?
That’s okay. Deschooling can feel like floating in space. But here’s the thing: your children don’t need you to be a trained teacher. They need you to be present, curious and brave enough to slow down. And you are.
So make the tea. Read the book. Watch the clouds. Let them be bored. Let them find themselves again – and maybe, let yourself do the same.
You’ve not fallen behind. You’ve just stepped off the treadmill. Welcome to a different kind of learning. It’s gentler. Wilder. More real.
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P.S. If you’re wondering what comes after deschooling, stay tuned. We’ll talk gentle curriculum picks, relaxed routines and how to actually get your kids to write something without tears (yours or theirs). Promise.
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