Home Educating an Anxious Child or After School Avoidance (EBSA) in the UK
Quick answer Many families turn to home education when a child becomes too anxious to attend...

What if you do not want to choose between school and home education, but a bit of both? That is flexi-schooling: your child stays on a school’s roll but attends part-time, and is educated at home for the rest of the week. It can be a brilliant middle path, but there is one crucial thing to understand before you get your hopes up.
In a flexi-schooling arrangement your child remains a registered pupil at the school and attends for agreed sessions (say three days a week), while you take responsibility for their education on the other days. They are not deregistered, unlike full home education. The school still marks the register, and the agreed home-education days are recorded as authorised absence.
This is the part many parents do not realise. Flexi-schooling is not a legal right. It can only happen if the head teacher agrees to it, and they are under no obligation to say yes. Some heads are enthusiastic about it, others will not consider it, often because of how part-time attendance affects their attendance figures. So the realistic first step is a friendly, well-prepared conversation with the head, not an assumption that you can simply opt in.
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If flexi-schooling is refused, your options are to continue with full-time school, or to deregister and home educate fully (which is a right, unlike flexi-schooling). Some families in this position choose full home education and then build in the structured group activities their child would have got at school.
No. Flexi-schooling can only happen with the head teacher's agreement, and they are not obliged to grant it. Full home education, by contrast, is a right that does not need permission.
Your child stays on the school roll and the school marks the register. The agreed home-education days are recorded as authorised absence, which is why some heads are reluctant, as it affects their attendance figures.
Write to the head teacher proposing a specific arrangement (which days at school, which at home), explain how it helps your child, and reassure them you will take responsibility for the home days. Get any agreement in writing.
You can continue full-time school or deregister and home educate fully, which is your right. Many families who are refused choose full home education and add structured group activities to replace the school input.
More answers: see our complete UK Home Education FAQ, covering the 20 questions UK parents ask most about home educating.
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